• Julieta Chiara

Rope Bondage 101: 4 Best Beginner Knots To Try (+ Videos)

Updated: Aug 19, 2020


So you're interested in learning about rope bondage 101.


I'm going to break down everything you should know (and do) before you trying rope bondage for the first time, plus the 4 best beginner knots you should try (with YouTube videos!)


When we think of bondage, one of the first things that may come to mind is being tied up and restrained with ropes- it can range from a simple wrist restraint, to full body ties and hanging, such as the Japanese rope tying art called Shibari (I just had my first experience with this, absolutely amazing).


*This is for beginners, and I write on the assumption that those reading may have never tried any form of bondage. Thank you!

When couples see more advanced forms of bondage, they may be put off because it may not be what they want to try.


The good news is that you can still incorporate bondage into your sex life in very vanilla ways, or experiment with very basic rope ties.


Rope bondage can be enticing since it is a form of power play as well- you are giving power to whoever is restraining you- consensually of course.


Having any element taken away from you during a sexual encounter can heighten your experience- and the mystery of what your partner will do next with you…


The best!


What I love about rope bondage specifically is that the ropes can create added sensations, specifically the squeezing around the wrists, breasts, or there are certain ties that can be done to hit the clitoris directly (more advanced).

Bringing up Rope bondage to your partner


It is very common to feel intimidated bringing up new things to partners, especially if it has to do with BDSM.


BDSM, for those who aren't educated, can hold a negative connotation.


It is much more common than you think, and you definitely don't need to wear latex or own whips and chains (but it is exciting).


Just like anything new in the bedroom, I always feel it is best to have a light hearted conversation before hand.


For example, always compliment what your partner is doing well in- and then suggest something new you would like to try with them.


It really is as simple as saying “Babe, we have absolutely amazing sex and I would love to try something new with you, would you be open to considering tying my hands behind my back? What are your thoughts on that?”


Listen to what they have to say, and throw in some suggestions on how you can incorporate it into your next session:


“We can buy silk ropes, or you can tie my wrists together with my panties”, or


“I would love to tie you to the bed and pleasure you”.


See? Sometimes we may get shy in asking for our desires, but quite frankly its a nice way to spark open conversation…. and hormones. 


Rope bondage rule #1: Safety First

Keep in mind that as with anything in BDSM, it is done on the basis of consent and trust.


Even in the simplest of tying or binding, you should always check up on your partner to make sure they feel safe and are experiencing pleasure from it.